Sexologist
Sex career no bed of roses
"Kim is a sexologist. He is also easygoing, charming and has the ability to put visitors immediately at ease. Discussions involving sex seem no more threatening than a chat about the latest fad or the weather. His patients, for the most part, are homemakers with dysfunctional or nonexistent sexual relationships with their husbands.
Kim might be compared to Alfred Kinsey, the highly controversial U.S. sex researcher. Like the late Indiana University professor, the 54-year-old Kim has dedicated most of his life to examining human sexuality-a subject that has, to some degree, remained off-limits in Japan to this day.
Later this month, a movie based on the life of Kinsey-a zoologist and biologist, whose project involved research on more than 18,000 Americans-is scheduled to open in Japan.
Kim has been hired as a lecturer for a string of events promoting the movie.
Since opening his counseling center in 1999, Kim has treated hundreds of people. Of about 200 patients who visited his office last year, 5 percent were virgin females, and 5 percent were males. The rest were homemakers in their 30s to 60s suffering from sexless marriages.
"About a third of my clients have gone to psychiatrists for help," says Kim, explaining that the depth of the problem has robbed so many women of their dignity and confidence.
"The problem is that once a couple gets married, that often turns out to be the end of the story for husbands. They soon lose sexual interest and deal with their wives as they would their mothers," Kim says.
This problem extends beyond sex, he says. "These husbands won't even hold hands with their wives. Kindness and understanding are beyond them. Eventually there is no real contact at all-the wives just become their personal servants..."
Internationl Herald Tribune/Asahi Newspaper, August 6, 2005
"Kim is a sexologist. He is also easygoing, charming and has the ability to put visitors immediately at ease. Discussions involving sex seem no more threatening than a chat about the latest fad or the weather. His patients, for the most part, are homemakers with dysfunctional or nonexistent sexual relationships with their husbands.
Kim might be compared to Alfred Kinsey, the highly controversial U.S. sex researcher. Like the late Indiana University professor, the 54-year-old Kim has dedicated most of his life to examining human sexuality-a subject that has, to some degree, remained off-limits in Japan to this day.
Later this month, a movie based on the life of Kinsey-a zoologist and biologist, whose project involved research on more than 18,000 Americans-is scheduled to open in Japan.
Kim has been hired as a lecturer for a string of events promoting the movie.
Since opening his counseling center in 1999, Kim has treated hundreds of people. Of about 200 patients who visited his office last year, 5 percent were virgin females, and 5 percent were males. The rest were homemakers in their 30s to 60s suffering from sexless marriages.
"About a third of my clients have gone to psychiatrists for help," says Kim, explaining that the depth of the problem has robbed so many women of their dignity and confidence.
"The problem is that once a couple gets married, that often turns out to be the end of the story for husbands. They soon lose sexual interest and deal with their wives as they would their mothers," Kim says.
This problem extends beyond sex, he says. "These husbands won't even hold hands with their wives. Kindness and understanding are beyond them. Eventually there is no real contact at all-the wives just become their personal servants..."
Internationl Herald Tribune/Asahi Newspaper, August 6, 2005
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